New York Magazine: Is It Cheating If You’re Allowed to Cheat?

Very interesting article in New York magazine, titled The New Monogamy. According to this article, if you, as a couple, agree to cheating, it will stop the craving to cheat even more.

Whether it’s fantasy (I’m allowed to sleep with Andy Garcia if we should happen to meet and fall in lust) or reality (every Thursday night is boys night, and I’m the girl …and you’re not invited), I liken it to a diet where you’re allowed a spoonful of ice cream every night so that you don’t feel deprived and at risk of eating the whole gallon. Just a taste and you’re satisfied, right?

Mike (42, writer) and Jessica (31, graphic designer) just celebrated their fourth anniversary. “When we first started dating, we talked about monogamy and how it seemed to create more problems than it solved,” says Mike. “So we decided we’d be open to new things, so long as we told each other everything and never did anything for the sake of the experience—we would only have sex when we were actually turned on.”

I guess I’ll talk to my honey about this in case I run into Andy today at the Piggly Wiggly. Uhhh, but that would mean that if he runs into Natalie Portman, he could…. Never mind. Situation averted by not even bringing it up!

The New Monogamy [New York Magazine]
Photo Credit: Phillip Toldeano

TAGS: Cheating, Monogamy, New York Magazine
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